Rising Above The Noise
Renita D Davis | International Community Hope Project (ICHP)
Encourager With Impact
Renita D. Davis is a multifaceted professional with a rich background in social work, coaching, and entrepreneurship spanning over two decades. Her journey began as an accomplished social worker and author before transitioning into the role of a coach and best-selling author. Renita's expertise lies in empowering individuals through life's challenges, utilizing a diverse skill set that includes coaching, mentoring, and facilitating outsourcing services.
Renita's true passion lies in community engagement, particularly in empowering women and strengthening families. Her empathetic listening and expert guidance have helped numerous individuals overcome obstacles in both their personal and professional lives. Renita has launched the innovative coaching app Coach to Go™, available on Android and iPhone platforms.
Renita's signature talk, "Gratitude and G.R.A.C.E.™ Through Trauma," reflects her dedication to guiding individuals through difficult times with resilience and positivity. Her work is deeply rooted in making positive impacts on individuals and communities, and she enthusiastically welcomes connections from those who share her passion for growth and transformation.
There are times that we are on a journey to our place called "there". In the process of this journey, we find ourselves connecting to others whom we believe are going in the same direction. we share our ups and downs, the hacks we have learned, and the resources we have obtained be it external or learned knowledge that provides a resource to others. You are enjoying their company and you trust and value this connection. As you are unsuspectingly going on your way something shifts. There is noise. I'm talking about the chatter that is unproductive and it starts to cause you to feel uncomfortable. Because you believe that you are on the same journey as those around you. You ignore it and assume it was a glitch in the reception. Everyone experiences it. It causes you to step back even after the encounter and you start to analyze your response and make efforts to correct yourself. Because you cannot fathom what just occurred happened. It starts with slight static, the push back the criticizing, the stagnating advice.
In my eBook, The Book of H.O.P.E, the chapter on Overcoming I talk about creating that cohort of advisors, people who support you. I explain my experience of finding my five. I reflect on the dangers of having too many. Your conversations will not be focused but will consist of "foolish talk." As purposeful humans, we all run into people who say things that shake us to our core. It causes us to question our journey, our belief system, and our faith, and even question our decision to have connections that are long-lasting and counterproductive. the longer you are in the relationship the less you receive a benefit from these connections. In my book, I give you a warning that finding your "five" can also mean saying goodbye to some. As we move forward to our vision and goals we become more secure and confident that what we are doing and where we are going is right for us. Well, guess what? As we become more mature in our ways of knowing, we are also shedding our old ways. There is a process called molting where animals shed to make way for new growth.
When we as human beings make way for new opportunities we also go through this process. here are some safe ways to remove yourself from the noise as you walk into your new.
Always do a self-assessment to make sure that you are not overreacting. The litmus test: Did this hurt my heart or my core? Can I learn from what was said? Will this create in me a better understanding of who I am and where I'm going? Sometimes hurtful comments can be a building block for your success if you can receive them.
Please be careful about the conversations you have with the noise makers. this may have been a person with whom you used to share every aspect of your life. provide information that will produce a positive outcome so you will not end up feeling defeated after your encounter.
Recognize whom you are "working" with. What I mean is to understand the nature of this relationship it may not be what you imagined, and you have to accept that reality
Seek other ways to promote peace in your life so when the noise does come, if you should let it in, will not affect your progress
Seek wise counsel, In my book, I give you a definition of wise counsel. My wise counsel is my elders, pastor, and Christian friends. (but what if your Christian friend is the noise maker?) then go to another friend whom you value their advice and who has never steered you in the wrong direction. That is the key.
If you are a faith-based person, pray and meditate, I talk to God about everything.
Lastly, remove yourself slowly from the type of connection you have with this person. Sometimes we have to rearrange our boxes on the shelf. It's okay if you still want to say connected. Just adjust what that connection looks like. It will slowly dissolve in its own time as well.
All of these steps I have used in my growth journey. I have found that I have had to "rinse and repeat" this process at times. The benefit is that in utilizing my steps have been able to remain intact with my peace of mind and the decision and actions taken to protect my peace.
““When you identify that there needs to be an adjustment in how you navigate the space you are in, you are taking an important step for change.””
If you are on the journey to rising about the noise and grabbing hold of your peace, let's chat. You can connect with me via calendly at https://www.bit.ly/giving 8 or visit my website. Let's work together to move you forward.
renitadavis@ichpmove.com | (224) 540-3772 | www.ichpmove.com
